So true, I’ve been learning to calm my critical parent and free my inner wild child. I’ve seen her in a meditation, painted my nails purple, started acrylic pour painting, really seeing the colours in nature….she is coming 🌈
I realise I'm a bit behind in reading and joining this but it's so relevant to me right now. I found the part on transaction analysis so helpful. It's a framework I've worked with before and very quickly helps me see where I'm operating from. I'm currently flitting between critical parent and adapted child. Trying to do everything perfectly then suddenly giving up in despair. Forcing my way through to do lists, then zoning out. So many things resonated, the emotional eating, feeling I'm in survival mode... Time to pick up that book!
Thanks for the feedback Selin - and do jump in and join us in the chat, there’s a group of us working our way through and we’d love to have you with us! 💃💃💃
I’m in! Many years ago I did The Artist’s Way, but through circumstance the artist part of me got set aside for the writer part of me. And oh yes, also that part that is a slave to chores and other people’s needs. I’d like to write and illustrate some ebooks for children, but first my own inner child needs to be set free. Thank you. :)
It’s a join when you can, fluid and flexible style affair (because let’s face it we are all stacked, aren’t we… 🫠) - be great to see you whenever you can make it Jeanette 💚
I love this book. I did the whole thing a few years ago and it helped me find delight again. I still do the morning pages pretty religiously but almost never do the artist dates. (Surprise!) what the the details about the group?
Hi Jennifer - that’s SO good to hear the book helped you find delight again 💃💃💃
The Artist Dates are definitely the part most people skip (us too 🙄) - that’s why we thought doing this in a group would be great.
We're running a 12-week journey starting next week, with weekly prompts in the Substack chat. Mondays we'll post the week's theme with questions, Wednesdays are for (totally optional) sharing, and Fridays for reflecting on insights. It's all through the chat feature here on SS, so easy to dip in and out.
For paid subscribers, we do a monthly live so we’ll be able to do 4 live circles to explore and discuss together.
This is spot on. And what’s crazy is that I’m not married and I don’t have kids, but I’ve lived a long time in the structure and demands of the corporate world, as a sole provider in my relationships, and with loads of self-imposed demands…and now with both aging parents living with me. So even though I don’t have the additional loads of taking care of kids and a partner, I’m just as burnt out and exhausted as all my other parent-friends. The only difference is that I have more bandwidth to notice it, acknowledge it, reflect on it, and just maybe try to claw my way back to joy. Hopefully I’ll recognize it when I do.
I fully agree with this - and, I also notice there is something missing here, if we grew up with a controlling parent and a “nurturing” parent that was stuck in Drama Triangle energy (women usually get stuck in the victim role here) then we never actually knew what unconditional, healthy support looked and felt like. It’s hard to nurture ourselves (or others) if we never knew something other than controlling or martyr/unboundaried over-giving (that’s really a pull on our energy in disguise). We tended to be the kids that grew up feeling like the only ‘adult’ in the house so we unconsciously needed to stay vigilant because there wasn’t safety or time for being a kid.
It’s a layer that gets overlooked in healing work, we frequently are needing to relearn how to parent ourselves with healthy masculine AND feminine energy. The healthy discipline/boundaries to act AND the healthy feminine receptivity to transform, create, and nurture.
So important. Your analogy of the inner wild child brought back the memory of the book "Flowers in the Attic". As a child, it was a strangely bizarre yet addictive book, as a mother looking back, I see the layers. The cost of a woman sacrificing herself and her first family to make a place for a new and socially approved one with benefits.
Hiding away her dirty secrets but never truly being able to bury them.
Thank you for that reminder.
Also, I sent you a message about potentially guesting on a podcast to be released next month.
I think you have so much to offer and I would love to talk to you more about what you are doing.
Feel free to visit my Substack to see if it aligns. Recording is ongoing until early June.
So true, I’ve been learning to calm my critical parent and free my inner wild child. I’ve seen her in a meditation, painted my nails purple, started acrylic pour painting, really seeing the colours in nature….she is coming 🌈
I realise I'm a bit behind in reading and joining this but it's so relevant to me right now. I found the part on transaction analysis so helpful. It's a framework I've worked with before and very quickly helps me see where I'm operating from. I'm currently flitting between critical parent and adapted child. Trying to do everything perfectly then suddenly giving up in despair. Forcing my way through to do lists, then zoning out. So many things resonated, the emotional eating, feeling I'm in survival mode... Time to pick up that book!
Thanks for the feedback Selin - and do jump in and join us in the chat, there’s a group of us working our way through and we’d love to have you with us! 💃💃💃
I’m in! Many years ago I did The Artist’s Way, but through circumstance the artist part of me got set aside for the writer part of me. And oh yes, also that part that is a slave to chores and other people’s needs. I’d like to write and illustrate some ebooks for children, but first my own inner child needs to be set free. Thank you. :)
Exactly! All 👏🏻 of 👏🏻 this👏🏻! Thank you for this empowering reminder to honour our creative cycles.
Wow, you just nailed everything I'm thinking and feeling in my life right now. I'm going to have to jump on into this!
I love The Artist's Way and I love this idea. The work aligns deeply with my own, so I hope to join in!
So so true.
Women I work with show these patterns too. And the Artist's Way is a fun path back to our joy.
Will join the challenge as I can, Rachel. (Have a full to-do and to-be list!)
It’s a join when you can, fluid and flexible style affair (because let’s face it we are all stacked, aren’t we… 🫠) - be great to see you whenever you can make it Jeanette 💚
I love this book. I did the whole thing a few years ago and it helped me find delight again. I still do the morning pages pretty religiously but almost never do the artist dates. (Surprise!) what the the details about the group?
Hi Jennifer - that’s SO good to hear the book helped you find delight again 💃💃💃
The Artist Dates are definitely the part most people skip (us too 🙄) - that’s why we thought doing this in a group would be great.
We're running a 12-week journey starting next week, with weekly prompts in the Substack chat. Mondays we'll post the week's theme with questions, Wednesdays are for (totally optional) sharing, and Fridays for reflecting on insights. It's all through the chat feature here on SS, so easy to dip in and out.
For paid subscribers, we do a monthly live so we’ll be able to do 4 live circles to explore and discuss together.
Would love you to join us if it appeals!
This is spot on. And what’s crazy is that I’m not married and I don’t have kids, but I’ve lived a long time in the structure and demands of the corporate world, as a sole provider in my relationships, and with loads of self-imposed demands…and now with both aging parents living with me. So even though I don’t have the additional loads of taking care of kids and a partner, I’m just as burnt out and exhausted as all my other parent-friends. The only difference is that I have more bandwidth to notice it, acknowledge it, reflect on it, and just maybe try to claw my way back to joy. Hopefully I’ll recognize it when I do.
Looking forward to the book and discussion!
I fully agree with this - and, I also notice there is something missing here, if we grew up with a controlling parent and a “nurturing” parent that was stuck in Drama Triangle energy (women usually get stuck in the victim role here) then we never actually knew what unconditional, healthy support looked and felt like. It’s hard to nurture ourselves (or others) if we never knew something other than controlling or martyr/unboundaried over-giving (that’s really a pull on our energy in disguise). We tended to be the kids that grew up feeling like the only ‘adult’ in the house so we unconsciously needed to stay vigilant because there wasn’t safety or time for being a kid.
It’s a layer that gets overlooked in healing work, we frequently are needing to relearn how to parent ourselves with healthy masculine AND feminine energy. The healthy discipline/boundaries to act AND the healthy feminine receptivity to transform, create, and nurture.
So important. Your analogy of the inner wild child brought back the memory of the book "Flowers in the Attic". As a child, it was a strangely bizarre yet addictive book, as a mother looking back, I see the layers. The cost of a woman sacrificing herself and her first family to make a place for a new and socially approved one with benefits.
Hiding away her dirty secrets but never truly being able to bury them.
Thank you for that reminder.
Also, I sent you a message about potentially guesting on a podcast to be released next month.
I think you have so much to offer and I would love to talk to you more about what you are doing.
Feel free to visit my Substack to see if it aligns. Recording is ongoing until early June.